Tuesday, May 10, 2016

Who Loves You, Baby?
You're Sure?

There are people who do what they say they’re going to do and people who don’t. The first are gems and you will forgive their cranky moments, lousy taste in clothes/music/tv/movies and inability to tell Warhol from Watteau because they are reliable and you know you can count on them.

Headache? They’re there with the aspirin.
Bad breakup? They’re the shoulder you cry on.
Fired, laid off, downsized? They’re there with comfort and contacts who will help you find the job you need.

Then there are The You-Know-Who's They love you, love your book, wouldn’t miss your opening/party/reading for anything, promise to write a glowing review, will call their best friends Beyoncé and Kim Kardashian who are just dying to help promote your book/movie/groovy new line of kitchen utensils.


Don’t hold your breath because they are not gonna do whatever it is they promised on the Bible/the Qu'ran/their favorite pair of Nikes to do. They’re the love-you-and-leave-you-in-the-lurch buddies, the bff’s we all know and even like—but know we can’t depend on.

When was the last time you were let down by someone you thought you knew? Or have you learned to separate the Do-ers from the You-Know-Who's?


  1. I know these people all too well. If they are fellow writers, they are always hitting you up for blurbs and reviews and mentions on your blog, but they've never read a word you've written. And the cherry on top: they're always recommending other writers' books in your genre that they "love."

    1. Yep. Been there. Done that. Astonishing, isn't it? But they seem utterly clueless—and can't figure out why you're not rushing to do whatever they want. Plus, often enough, their "requests" come off more like demands. :-(